“To effectively communicate, we must realise that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others” Tony Robbins
I love this quote, we are all different and unique. By understanding that we have our own internal representation system which affects how we process the information that comes into our mind, means we can understand the psychology behind communication.
This internal filtering in our mind, affects how we perceive and communicate to others. It also affects how our communication is received. The receiving person has their own internal version of what is going on as well, so it is complex but real, no wonder there are mis-understandings at times.
We have each got our own conditioning, through experiences, values, beliefs and attitudes to different things in life, which mean that we all filter information in our own way. Have you ever been with someone and both observed or heard the same thing but interpreted it differently, well this is what I am referring to.
We will each have our own individual process which we are not even consciously aware of us, which filters, distorts or generalises information to give us our version of what we perceive has happened and the person we are communicating with will have their version too.
How we filter all this information internally drives our behaviour and affects how we interpret the world and what goes on around us. Understanding this really helps us develop our own communication and our understanding of others.
So how can you improve your communication skills to improve the relationships in your life?
NLP Coaching and Hypnotherapy can help you improve and strengthen your relationships with others and yourself. It will help you create an understanding of how and why you communicate like you do. You will develop your understanding of others and see different points of view. With this development of knowledge, it will in turn reduce conflict and help you communicate more effectively, both at home and in the workplace.
So if you feel misunderstood, coaching can help you improve your communication skills so you can lead a happier and less stressed life. If you want to discuss how coaching or hypnotherapy can help you, feel free to get in touch to see how I can help you.